Are You in an Abusive Relationship?

If you can answer yes to many of the questions below, you are likely in an abusive relationship and need to seek help.

Does He . . .

  • Act one way at home and another in public?

  • Criticize you for little things and call you names?
  • Anger easily?
  • Constantly accuse you of being unfaithful?
  • Keep tract of your time?
  • Discourage friendships and family relationships?
  • Control the finances and force you to beg for spending money, then demand accounting of all you spend?
  • Humiliate you and degrade you in front of others?
  • Destroy your sentimental items?
  • Hit, punch, slap, kick you or the children?
  • Blame you for anything that goes wrong?
  • Distort what you say and disregard your feelings?
  • Accuse you of actions and emotions which he has actually exhibited?
  • Undermine your role as a parent in front of your children?
  • Force his opinions on you?
  • Demand that you keep your mouth shut about family business?
  • Lie to others about your situation?
  • Threaten to turn the children against you?
  • Punch holes in the walls with his fist or head?
  • Criticize your appearance?
  • Tape record your conversations or keep track of your sins to use later against you?
  • Belittle your accomplishments?
  • Constantly contradict himself to confuse you?
  • Isolate you from friends and family?
  • Make you feel you are the one who is crazy?
  • Use intimidation to get what he wants?
  • Make you believe you can't exist without him?
  • Escalate his anger to physical?
  • Promise to change, but refuses to see a counselor?
  • Bring you flowers and gifts after a violent episode and promise never to do it again?
  • Act jealous and accuse you of cheating with every man you treat friendly?
  • Give you the silent treatment and withdraw emotionally?
  • Keep you from using the phone?

Do You . . .

  • Blame yourself for your partner's abusive behavior?
  • Tell yourself that if you could only change enough he would treat you better?
  • Walk on eggshells to keep the peace in the family?
  • Do whatever he asks in fear of him hurting you or leaving you?
  • Stay with him because you fear he will take the children?
  • Feel like you have lost your own identity?
  • Lie to family, friends to protect the abuser?
  • Hide your injuries by wearing long sleeves or dark glasses?

If you can say YES to many of these questions, you have identified an abusive relationship and need to seek help.


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